Every day in our schools and communities, children are teased, threatened, or tormented by bullies, creating a climate of fear.Not only does bullying adversely affect children physically, academically and socially, but it can have adverse mental effects as well.

A 2008 study provides strong evidence that being bullied can cause children to develop depression and anxiety. "Bullied children are known to be more likely to have anxiety, depression and thoughts of suicide, as well as to experience social isolation," states Dr. Louise Arsenault.  (Read entire article) 

Mounting research shows the negative effects on both the bully and the victim, mental-health professionals, schools, parents and even kids themselves are coming up with new ways to combat this threatening behavior. "Consequences of bullying can affect both the bullies and the victims," Tarshis said. "Victims may suffer a loss of self-esteem, and they may miss school, because they're afraid of being bullied."

Ironically, Tarshis added, "Bullies probably suffer worse long-term consequences, as they're more likely to use drugs or end up in jail in the future."But, he said, as more and more research is highlighting these long-term effects, the mindset of "toughing it out" is slowly starting to change.

"There needs to be a community-based change approach," Tarshis said. "It has to start with the school district, the principals, the teachers and support staff. When kids come in with complaints, they can't be ignored. You also have to involve parents, and you need the innocent bystanders to intervene and let other kids know that this behavior is not okay." "The entire culture of the school has to change," he said.

According to the American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry, "Children who are bullied experience real suffering that can interfere with their social and emotional development, as well as their school performance. Some victims of bullying have even attempted suicide rather than continue to endure such harassment and punishment."

If you suspect your child may be the victim of bullying ask him or her to tell you what's going on. You can help by providing lots of opportunities to talk with you in an open and honest way. 

If your child becomes withdrawn, depressed or reluctant to go to school, or if you see a decline in school performance, additional consultation or intervention may be required.  A child and adolescent psychiatrist or other mental health professional can help your child and family and the school develop a strategy to deal with the bullying. Seeking professional assistance earlier can lessen the risk of lasting emotional consequences for your child.

If you suspect your child is bullying others, it's important to seek help for him or her as soon as possible. Without intervention, bullying can lead to serious academic, social, emotional and legal difficulties.  Talk to your child's pediatrician, teacher, principal, school counselor, or family physician. If the bullying continues, a comprehensive evaluation by a child and adolescent psychiatrist or other mental health professional should be arranged.  The evaluation can help you and your child understand what is causing the bullying, and help you develop a plan to stop the destructive behavior.